“I Can't Do This Anymore:” What to Do If You Are Experiencing Burnout

All of us have moments when we say to ourselves, “I can’t do this anymore.” Usually, these are times when you feel exhausted, depleted, overwhelmed, and unable to manage life's stressors.

In other words, if you're saying to yourself, “I can’t do this anymore,” you might be experiencing the symptoms of burnout.

Reaching a breaking point like this isn’t enjoyable, but when looked at the right way, it can be thought of as a wake-up call to make some changes in your life, and to figure out new ways of managing your stress.

Let’s take a look at what burnout may look like, what the causes are, how to cope, and when it may become necessary to seek out mental health support.

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What “I Can’t Do This Anymore” Feels Like

When the words “I can’t do this anymore” pop into your head, you are usually at a place in your life where you feel emotionally, mentally, and physically unable to cope with everyday things.

Maybe you have been working a high-stress job and were trudging through for a while, but then your boss tossed you a project that felt impossible to manage, and you reached your breaking point.

Perhaps you are a parent who has been dealing with cranky, sick children for several days. Today you found out your furnace needs to be replaced, and that was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

Burnout can happen to anyone at any time but is most commonly experienced by working people, or people in caregiving types of roles (parents, people caring for older relatives).

Burnout isn’t the same as feeling generally tired or overwhelmed. Usually, people who are experiencing burnout have been trying their best to keep it together, but then one thing after another piled up, and they just didn’t have the strength to continue.

Symptoms

The World Health Organization (WHO) says that there are three defining characteristics of burnout. The WHO classification of burnout pertains to burnout at work, but these characteristics can apply to other situations that might cause you to experience intense overwhelm and defeat.

If you are experiencing burnout, you may have gotten to the point where you feel a lack of empathy towards others, and a feeling like you “just don’t care” anymore. You may feel as though nothing you do really matters, and that you are unable to accomplish anything.

Burnout and feeling like you “can’t do this anymore” can have physical manifestations as well. You may experience headaches, stomachaches, muscle soreness, and altered sleep and eating patterns. Burnout can increase the risk of substance abuse as well, and people who are feeling burntout may turn to drugs and alcohol for soothing.

Burnout vs. Other Mental Health Issues

You can experience burnout whether or not you struggle with other mental health conditions. But it’s important to distinguish between feelings of burnout and mental health conditions like depression so that you can get a proper diagnosis and treatment.

If you are experiencing signs of burnout, along with feelings of hopelessness, very low self-esteem, suicidal ideation, or if you suspect you might be battling depression, please contact a mental health professional.

Identifying the Causes

Burnout usually is related to work or caregiving roles but it can happen to anyone who is experiencing a build-up of stress or finds themselves in a situation where their resources are depleting quickly, especially if they are not getting outside support.

Many people are experiencing burnout right now in light of COVID-19. Burnout is on the rise and you are not alone if you are experiencing it.

Some of the individuals most prone to burnout include nurses, doctors, teachers, and social workers, but anyone who works in a job rife with responsibilities and pressure is vulnerable to burnout. People who are part of marginalized communities, and social justice activists may be prone to signs of burnout as well.

The most common cause of burnout include:

• A pile-on of responsibilities or tasks
• Lack of support at work or in a caregiving role
• Not feeling listened to or heard
• Taking on too many responsibilities at once
• Not practicing self-care, or not having the ability to do so
  
• Feeling a lack of control over decisions

How to Cope With Feeling This Way

If you are in a place where you are saying to yourself, “I can’t do this anymore,” you shouldn’t feel that you are less than or inadequate in any way. Often, when someone has reached this point, it’s because there is too much on their plate. The truth is, there’s only so much one person can handle.

So one of the first things you can do if you have reached a breaking point is to assess your life responsibilities and see if there is anything that can be changed.

Ask yourself questions like:

• “Is this the right job for me? Might it be time for me to look for a new job?”
• "Is there anything I can take off of my plate and delegate to others?"
• “Is there anyone I can call on to help me with my children/parents/people I am responsible for?”
• “Can I afford to hire someone to help me around the house while I deal with my work or caregiving responsibilities? Are there people in my family who can pitch in more with household chores?”
• “Are there commitments in my life that I can eliminate or postpone for now as I try to manage my other responsibilities?”

In addition to trying to change your life circumstances so that they are more manageable, there are some self-care techniques that you may consider adopting to help manage your feelings and your energy so that you don’t continue to feel bogged down quite so much.

The American Psychological Association (APA) recommends:

• Mindfulness and meditation: Taking 5 to 10-minute mindfulness breaks during your days can make a huge difference
• Exercise: Both cardiovascular exercise and resistance training are effective methods of managing burnout
• Maintain strong boundaries: Make a point not to be “on” at all times; unplug from your work during evening and weekends
• Build a supporting social circle: Having colleagues to vent to, or other people in your circle who understand what you are going through, can be therapeutic
• Consider therapy or counseling: Many therapists specialize in burnout and can help you figure out how to move through this difficult time
  

A Word From Verywell

Sometimes people are quick to brush off feelings of “I can’t do this anymore,” thinking that they should try to toughen up or push themselves through. But burnout is a real thing, and if left unaddressed, it can have consequences for your emotional, physical, and mental health.

The truth is, addressing your feelings of burnout isn’t a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. Most of all, you deserve to feel confident, well, and whole. Try not to get discouraged. You can start addressing burnout by making even one small change today. Small changes add up and have a big impact on how you feel.